As I prepare to start a new chapter in my life much like the woman
in this article below, I am perplexed as to why her best friends would leave
her in her time of glory. Aren't friends, best friends at that, supposed to be the ones who support you the most? But, then again I can understand why
this would happen.
I realize
relationships will change and people will always come and go from our
lives, and I believe if the friendships were tight to begin with, those friendships
would not have lasted regardless. This
is hard for some people to understand, and I too struggle with the loss of
friendship. Those who matter have weathered the changes in our
lives, and always have my back no matter where life takes me. Those people, who
don't stick around, just don’t fit in to the bigger picture of the lives we now
live. This doesn't mean they aren't proud of me and I am not proud of them. I am not going to lie though, it does hurt to lose a friendship and start the process of fitting in to new social groups.
I've been humbled by the people who have come and
gone in my life, and I treasure all experiences with each person. As we grow
older, we “grow up” and what was once important isn't so much anymore. I really
don’t drink as much as I once did, and because of that I've have had some
friendship struggles, but I believe the friends who stick around for your life
changes, are in it to win it…you’re friendship means something to them and that
is what keeps me optimistic in life.
In September, I will run my first 5K, and I hope
when I cross the finish line, my friends will be proud of my accomplishments
and not stray from me and my journey to being healthy and fit. In a world of chaos, we need each other...need the support, and love. I will support and love you, if you do the same for me.
http://www.cnn.com/2013/04/12/health/fit-nation-annette-relationships/index.html?hpt=hp_c4
Beautiful story, made me cry. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteAs I see it, her friends didn't dump her. She kinda dumped them. "Going out to eat is a rare occasion these days, and I can't remember the last time I had a drink. All of my free time is spent at the gym or doing something active. To maintain my active lifestyle I make sure I get a minimum of seven hours of sleep every night. Most of my friends are going out when I'm going to bed."
ReplyDeleteAll her free time is at the gym or doing something active?? That sounds excessive to me. She couldn't make time for her friends, so why is she surprised that they can't make time for her?
I understand not wanting to drink (you can go out with your friends and not drink). I can understand making healthy food choices (you can go out to dinner with your friends and make healthy food choices.) I can definitely understand wanting to get to bed at a reasonable time most nights. But if you can't be a little bit flexible and if you make changes that prevent you from ever spending time with your friends, don't be surprised when those friendships fall by the wayside.
--Cappy
That being said, Amy, I support your decision to change your life in healthy ways!
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